Men have been using sarcastic rhetoric in order to humiliate and shame women for having and liking good sex for centuries. The “I still beat” catchphrase is only further proof of that fact.

Over the last week or so, the old phrase has now garnered fame as the newest meme for social media to add their opinion on.

“I still beat” is for men who call Future their preacher and Zaytoven their deacon. The phrase is for men who project their insecurities from past relationships and their lack of emotional stability onto the women around them. It’s for men who say certain women aren’t the “wife type” but have 5 children by 3 different women (and only get around to see maybe two of them) with a part time job, no health or life insurance, can’t pay bills by themselves, and probably stay with their grandmothers- but somehow, still feel a woman should be strong enough to build them up from nothing and “stay down” even though he’s putting her through hell.

In other words, it’s for children.

https://twitter.com/1future/status/1024968682110443520

Which is why I have no understanding as to twitter’s fascination with arguing with men over it. Let’s face it: men who give out poor sex will always proceed to argue with you or slut shame you when you call them out on their lack of sex prowess.

Men are conditioned to try to be sex gods from the minute they grow their first pubic hair. Women are to be viewed as conquests, notches in their belts. Future literally said, “even if I hit you once, you part of my collection,” and you apes ate that shit up.

On the opposite side, women are trained to hide their lust and hormones for the sake of purity rings and chastity belts, which, let’s face it, get tossed out the window for a quickie in the backseat of some guy’s car your junior year of high school because all your friends said you should “totally do it.”

We all remember the girl whose nudes got sent around in high school and was painted a “slut” or “hoe” because she chose to sleep with–or not sleep with– some guy; or the girl who was slut-shamed because she broke up with her boyfriend and slept with multiple guys as a completely single and consenting adult.

Many of us women started having sex because of all the pressure from those around us and didn’t even become comfortable accepting ourselves as sexual beings until we got to college. So, when we do mature and step into our sexuality, it becomes a threat to the male ego.

When we stop having sex in order to please men and start having sex with the intention of achieving our orgasm, it leaves men feeling very insecure about their sexual stature. It makes them go mad when we call them out on their lack luster sex game. It drives them even crazier when we find someone who does it right and no longer need them.

Thus, we become hoes for standing up for our right to an orgasm.

Hell, it’s 2018 and there’s still men out there calling Ciara a hoe because she chose to move on and is living her best life with her wholesome husband and happy family. Future has been making songs to mask his hurt for YEARS and instead of getting that man the help he deserves, his supporters took his side and took shots at her for trying to distance herself.

2014 Future:

2016 Future:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rTYZuCTwIy8

He just dropped his newest mixtape, ‘BEASTMODE 2,’ on her and Russell Wilson’s two year wedding anniversary. Come on, y’all. As my sweet, southern grandmother always says, “a hurt dog will holler.” He’s hollerin’ y’all.

Is there a way to combat the phrase? No. Yet again, we women will have to be the mature ones. We have to hold ourselves accountable and stop sleeping with kids. Develop a list of your own qualifications that you must see from a man before you decide to have sex with him. By qualifications, I mean more than the typical “he has a job” or “takes you on a date to Applebees.” The bar is truly set so low. Is he responsible? Does he act like he cares for you? Outside of giving you money, can you trust him with your fears or to talk to him when you’re having a bad day? Does he respect you and your body enough to not have you looking crazy? Sex for the sake of sex is cool, but if it’s not with the right person, you can’t get mad when they show themselves as the mistake you knew you were making when you agreed to lay with him.

Also, don’t sacrifice your orgasm for anyone or anything. Get yours, sis! There is no one out there worth giving up your pleasure. If you’re still having bad sex, reclaim the phrase, if you must. If you had sex and he got his but you didn’t orgasm, guess what babe… you fucked him. You beat it up. He called you daddy and you should’ve choked him. There is no “I still beat” if you claim it first.

Let’s be clear, men idolize Future for his “savage” behavior but forget they themselves lack Nayvadius’ money, career, looks, and everything else in order to imitate his behavior. If you meet any man who seriously praises at the alter of Dirty Sprite and naked strippers, run the opposite direction. He’s not the one, you can’t make him into the one, and you can’t turn a hoe into a husband.

“I still beat” is only further proof of how men use sex as a tool to humiliate and shame women’s sexual pleasure because they lack the skills to pleasure a woman and Future is the artist they’ll listen to when their ego is bruised from being called out on it.

But, hey, you still beat.